Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaketh
What's in comes out
Today we are going to talk about safe-guarding our "love lives" You may have heard the phrase "garbage in, garbage out." What goes in, is going to come out. For example, if I poured coke into a can and then tipped the can over, coke is going to come out. If I am constantly pouring wrong thinking into my life, wrong doing is going to come out. The overflow shows what is in the container.
If we are spending a lot of time watching romance movies and reading romance novels, listening to love songs and listening to our girlfriends talk about boys, our motives are going to be all about having a boyfriend in our lives to romance us.
We will expect that man to be just like the movies and books and we will also tend to do things that those movies and books talk about and do. After a while we become immune to the sin in those movies and books. We think, everyone is doing it so why not us. This is soooo dangerous. All of a sudden our lives become filled with lust and the desire to have that someone now. It doesn't matter if its the best guy, just some guy. Then that desire pushes us to do whatever it takes to keep him, even if it means crossing God's boundaries.
Matthew 5:28 warns us "But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart." Thoughts lead to actions.
So if they are in your mind and in your heart they will come out in your actions. Matthew 15:18-19 " But those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the man. For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies..."
Philippians 4:8 says Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things." Think Bible!
So first you must put away the romance novels, chic flics, boy chatter, love songs and focus on something or should I say someone who created love.
The Bible says in I John 4:8 that "God is love" Therefore unless we know God, we do not know love. So there can not be true love in a relationship unless God is present. We must get to know him and put Him into our lives. We must put in Bible reading time and must focus on pursuing God.
Ps. 119:11 says "Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee." Focusing on God will help us to get our eyes off of boys and wait patiently until God brings someone into our lives. When He finally does, and we are continuing to put God first in our lives and hiding His Word in our hearts, our relationship will be about Him and pleasing him rather then our fleshly desires.
Joshua 1:9 says "This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success."